IDHAR UDHAR KI BAAT 77- STARING AT WIFE - Brig PS Gothra (Retd)
"I am not working in the Army for money," I said when the politician casually inquired about my salary, while in the waiting room near helipad.
He smirked. "CO saab, then I pray to God that you never rise above this rank."
"Why?" I asked, taken aback.
I had grown up in a fauji family, where it was common to say, If
you’re looking for money, don’t join the Army. It was ingrained in me.
But then I had forgotten that the times had changed.
Gone were the days when society looked up to a fauji, not just
because of his patriotism and he served in harsh terrains far from his
family, but because he could treat people with a bottle of rum, hand out
an odd blanket BK, an jersey woollen OG, or sometimes an overcoat. An
officer or a JCO could once get village boys recruited into the Army.
But now? That influence was gone. A fauji’s ability to "help" his fellow villagers had diminished.
The politician leaned forward. "If you are not worldly wise, you cannot look after the interests of your subordinates."
I frowned. "What does that mean?"
"Your statement about money in front of people—especially
politicians—only strengthens the notion that soldiers don’t need much.
And if that’s the case, why not cut their pay, their perks, their
privileges?"
"I do look after my jawans," I countered. "And I will go to any length to protect their interests."
He shrugged. "Let's not discuss this, Saab. I take my words back."
His dismissiveness irked me. My sense of self-righteousness made me push further.
"If you have any misgivings about my capability, please say so. I take pride in looking after my men."
The old man smiled. "Fine, then tell me—do you know your jawans have
to bribe railway clerks just to get their warrants or concession
vouchers changed in a hurry? They have to catch the next train home,
after all. Do you know they travel eight hours in a JKT bus (civil hired bus in J&K), where
legroom is a joke, and the seats are torturous? Do you know they pay a
higher insurance premium than civilians when they take home loans? And
do you know the struggles of a jawan’s family when he retires?"
I didn’t. Not about the bribes. Not about the JKT buses. Not about the insurance premiums.
I mentally noted it. I would fix what I could. But pension—yes, at least that was solid.
"The jawan gets a good pension when he retires," I said, confident.
The politician shook his head, his voice turning sharp. "Very sad to see that you think so."
He continued. "You retire a man in his prime, when his children are
in school. If they study in an Army Public School, he can’t even afford
their fees anymore because the education allowance stops the day he
retires. There is no assurance of a stable career. After a lifetime of
separation, most opt to remain separated—joining the DSC just to make
ends meet."
I had no answer to that. So I said the default officer’s line-
"They work for the country, and the country respects them and their families."
He laughed. A dry, knowing laugh.
"How naĂŻve. Have you ever lived in a village?"
"Yes, for a short duration."
"Then you must know that half the perverts in the village dream of
befriending a fauji’s wife (faujan), thinking she must be vulnerable to desires
because of separation. Some even go to the extent of staring at the
drain water when a faujan is bathing. And you talk about respect?"
My blood ran cold.
He went on. "Of course, this has stopped in my area because I got
covered drains built. But tell me—haven’t you seen retired jawans
working twelve-hour shifts as security guards for a pittance? Do they
have a choice? Their children’s college fees won’t pay themselves."
I was running out of things to say.
"So they should plan their finances better," I offered weakly.
He shook his head. "You still don’t get it. These men come from very
poor families. The first five to six years of service? They’re busy
building a proper home for their parents or marrying off their siblings.
Only after they marry do they start saving for themselves. By the time
they retire, their own family life is half-cooked."
I exhaled. "Okay, I am wrong. But I said those words because I am not greedy."
This time, he laughed loudly.
"Oh, Saab, I’m very sure you are trying to get an award after this
tenure. Let’s see you not applying for the incentives given to faujis
when they receive awards. People even change their home state on paper
just to claim higher incentives. Let’s not fool each other."
I had no comeback.
Then, in the distance, I heard it—the sound of the helicopter.
Finally, the VIP had arrived. Saved by the rotors.
As we walked to receive the guest.
The old man said, “because you people are not prudent, you don’t even know how
to extract the best out of vendors. The contract on buses clearly stipulates
enough legroom but because of your ‘bada saab attitude’ you don’t interfere"
I convinced myself that the old man
was just trying to get under my skin. Maybe he was annoyed that I allegedly
"manipulated" votes in the constituency.
But today, when I see corporate
workers crying about "70 or 90-hour work weeks" and debating
about some "staring at your wife" comment, I wonder—Did I truly compensate my
subordinates enough for working 24x7 on the borders, away from their families?
Maybe the politician was right.
Maybe I shouldn’t have gotten my
next rank.
Note :- Bribing railway clerk may not be there now, because of Defence Ticketing System. Terms of Insurance on loan is better when a soldier is having DSP account. Others are fleeced. Pensioners started getting CEA in 2007. About JKT I am sure the wisdom must have percolated in these two decades.
#IndianArmy #MilitaryLife #SoldierSacrifice #DefencePolicy #FaujiLife #RespectTheUniform #VeteransMatter #Patriotism
Amazing work. Truth told fearlessly. Respect for your writing skills are well earned.
ReplyDeleteVery Subtle !
ReplyDeletevery well explain
ReplyDeleteNicely highlighted.......the corporate world and soldiers life are poles apart......unfortunately we do not articulate the difficulties faced in an appropriate way and is not fully appreciated....you have been to highlight them well
ReplyDeleteSo true sir.
ReplyDeleteWell said
ReplyDeleteVery aptly and subtly put across sir.. you always hit the nail on the head 🫡
ReplyDeleteMasterpiece indeed. Sir you have God given knack of conveying your view point in most profound and subtle way.
ReplyDeleteSo very true
ReplyDeleteNo nonsense. Straight to the point. Bitter truth, well scripted!!!
ReplyDeleteTo understand the actual life. Every officer needs to stay in the village for few months. Convent and English culture of Army Officers needs a relook. Our Jawans are from villages. Total mismatch in thinking between the ranks and files.
ReplyDeleteThe pay and perks are a pittance for most civilian jobs with zero regard for quality of life. With such a high population, the likes of L&T should be legislated to have reasonable work weeks. After all the CEOs making money at the top 0.001% level of population cannot demand the same level of work when they try super hard to play ridiculously low wages barely at median level
ReplyDeleteAn extremely pertinent theme very aptly put across
ReplyDeleteNice article.
ReplyDeleteAs always, all deep rooted issues well articulated.
ReplyDeleteVery relevant content again.
ReplyDeleteSets one thinking.
Very well brought out. What the politician said was absolutely true in those days. Sadly, we have lost all our influence in the civil world today.
ReplyDeleteVery relevant issues and close to the ground realities that need greater introspection
ReplyDeletehard hitting truth
ReplyDeleteVery apt and subtle commentry on our mindset. We as offrs need to understand ground realities. Getting commissioned at young age not having seen enough harsh realities and a dose of nationalism makes us see the world with tainted glasses.
ReplyDeletePSG a superb article truthfully explaining important trivialities of fauji life. Very pertinent aspects of our life and culture. We don't know things would improve or deteriorate in times to come. Kudos to your simply forceful style.
ReplyDeleteSuper article.
ReplyDeleteLonger the faujis remain away from truth, more separated they will be from society realities, the system of Cantts only gives them cacooned cushions. The odds set by govts down the line for them keep them further away from goodies that are essential to lead respectful lives, defence forces do not stand for themselves which creates another reason number of fauji kids joining defence forces is decreasing .
ReplyDeleteHow to improve these conditions is a question I raise in this forum. Join us as we precisely are trying to work for emancipation of soldiers and their families
ReplyDeleteBrother this article is an eye opener for most of us.The truth is that a young man joins the forces for livlihood and to tide over his family comittments,Deshbkati is incidental and incalcated by the regimental ethos of Namak n Nishan.Nice article buddy.Keep it up.
ReplyDeleteThe dynamics of job diversification & open market network has definitely diminished the uniqueness & charm of erstwhile Fauji though it still remains an enviable Way of Life & scores well above other professions in matters of honesty & trust - it is for the top hierarchy to identify the host of problems encountered by a Fauji while in service as well as post retirement to find right solutions - only a correct diagnosis can lead you to nipping the problem from it's bud - we need to find the right balance between professional commitments & administrative challenges to optimise our individual capabilities & collective efforts for the national cause !!!
ReplyDeleteProbkems of soldiers have been brought out very aptly.
ReplyDeleteI was associated with Soldiers welfare as Director with J&K Govt in Sainik Welfare Deptt. The soldiers find it problematic dealing with issues related to Charter of State Govt. This is the reason,I am told in Punjab and elsewhere, the Army is way behind as choice or a job, amongst youth. Not a good sign, lot of reforms required to motivate youth to join armed forces, only Patriotism is not motivating enough reason.
A true representation..Things are changing. The soldier of today plans better due to increased awareness and socialmedia. You are talking about trains, well many of them fly today.
ReplyDeleteGreat article Sir, very humbly you have picturised the whole fauji life.
ReplyDeleteSuperb sir
ReplyDeleteThe narration is as intriguing as ever, may be even more in this particular blog. The lined are blurring, may be they were always and we were horsed in a lane and looking for the finish lime,truly trained and machined to execute. May be the so called ethos have been taken as the gospel truth and the belif of righteousness as suprem. The shaded of black and white were the only things taught and never the grey. Today the lines are blurring and the role of leadership. Point to ponder.
Interesting, expressive & powerful …., Brig Gothra.
ReplyDeleteThanks for the share🤗